The Successful Male Blog
Should you always take others feedback on board?
Common wisdom teaches us that if someone provides “constructive criticism”, we should take it on board. There is an implied notion that all feedback will serve us well if it comes with the banner of “constructive”. That is NOT entirely true.
“When do you think you’ll retire Ron? I hope I’m not working like this in 10 years from now, he explained.”
This is a statement I’ve heard before, I thought. Many times before.
As someone who assists people plan for their retirement, I understand the need for people to finally stop after having worked for decades.
A key contributing factor to success is our attention focus.
The more we place our attention on things that make us feel positive, the more energy is unleashed in us, which can be used to produce more and perform more.
Recently I had a disagreement with someone. Like all disagreements, I felt my stance was right and they thought their stance was right.
I felt hurt and betrayed.
The law of attraction says we get what we give. The more we give, the more we get.
We are constantly told people who give are good people.
Be thankful you don’t already have everything you desire, because if you did, there would be nothing to look forward to.
When someone says something negative to us, it can ruin our day.
Philosophers and spiritual leaders used to say that our mind is like a fertile garden and our thoughts and words are like seeds.
Are you busy? Really busy?
So busy that you have forgotten why you are doing what you are doing?
Our confidence levels drop when we are focussed more on what others are doing or when we compare ourselves unfavourably or excessively with other people who appear to be more successful than we are.
1. They Dream Big Dreams
2. They Have a Clear Sense Of Who They Are & What They Want
Are you someone who makes quick sweeping judgements over ideas and concepts?
Do you look at things with a skeptical eye?
1. They don't invest in their personal presentation/grooming
2. They don't develop their mind & thinking abilities
What is the difference between a man and a dog? And more importantly, what does this question have to do with success or personal development?
The most important thing in life is not what we get. It is who we become and who we impact.
When we shift our focus from 'having more' to 'being/becoming more', having more just becomes a natural consequence of that.
When money is lost in property, stock market, or business is it really "lost"?
Of course not.
So where is it??
Have you ever noticed the water in a pond? When the water just sits in one place, it gets dirty.
Have you noticed the water in a moving river? When the water keeps moving, it stays clean.
There are two ways to guarantee your failure:
1. Take advice from everyone.
We have all heard the expression "work smarter, not harder". But here is the reality- you can't substitute working hard for working smart, you have to do both.
What is paradoxical about 'working smart' is that the right to work smarter only comes after working hard for many years.
It is hard to feel confident as long as we feel the need to compare ourself to others.
No matter how smart we are, how we look, how accomplished we are, there is always someone who is ahead of us, and sooner or later we will run into them.
1. They don't give up after failure.
Anything that you preempt in life at a deep level takes the form of either doubt or positive expectation, depending on whether the emotion attached to your thought is negative or positive.
1. Get out of your head and get in your heart. Leave your ego at the door.
Did you know that coaching is the purest form of leading? In fact, if has been said - if you cannot coach, you cannot lead.
Winston Churchill once said, "Those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it"
Take success for example. And by success I mean the broadest possible perspective of it: financial certainty, freedom, good health and fitness, self-improvement for self-actualisation, meaningful relationships, the expression and living of one's values, and the inner reward that comes from making a positive difference in the lives of others.
Problems are perceived by us when there is a discrepancy between what we have and what we need/want.
1. Money comes to those who have the self-discipline to save at least 10% of all they earn and re-invest the earnings. The purpose of the saving is to create an emergency fund first and then to create assets for the future and the estate.
Holistic development includes not just the development of professional expertise, financial & emotionalintelligence but also spiritual growth and evolvement.
Spiritual growth is not an airy-fairy concept.
Far from it!
Over cautiousness is one of the biggest reasons why many people do not succeed in their careers, business or finances.
Here are the inconvenient truths about success that nobody wants to hear (WARNING: do not read if you prefer to live a lie).
1. You may not have as much time as you think, to do the things you have always wanted to do in your life.
Planning is the process of determining what needs to be done and how.
Action whilst important, rarely works without some kind of planning.