It is hard to feel confident as long as we feel the need to compare ourself to others.
No matter how smart we are, how we look, how accomplished we are, there is always someone who is ahead of us, and sooner or later we will run into them.
Lasting confidence comes from doing the best that we can with what we have to work with. Comparing ourselves with others and competing against them re-enforces a mindset of lack and limitation and serves to erode away our self-esteem.
When I was younger, I used to compare myself to others who were more successful than me. Anytime I tried to emulate what they were doing, it didn't work for me and I ended up feeling even more inadequate.
In general I found myself comparing myself with others who I perceived to be more accomplished than me, and in the process I disapproved and rejected my own unique way of thinking, natural talents and gifts.
I failed to understand that we are all different with our own individual blueprint and purpose.
I now believe that each one of us should take the time to develop our unique identity with what we have been gifted.
This is a form of self-acceptance and true confidence begins with self-acceptance.
- Ron Malhotra